It is Trauma : Simple .(Duro Owodunni Dear Single Mum)

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 It is Trauma : Simple .(Duro Owodunni Dear Single Mum)


Duro Owodunni, a Christian Mentor & Coach shares a simple insight into what may go on within the Single mum mind at any given time.


Single Parenting is traumatic even though it may not follow the conventional definition of trauma that is often associated with something sudden , unexpected and unplanned .It may not be classified as an incident where life or serious injury/loss occurs, it may however be very overwhelming that at some point ones normal coping ability with everyday stress, comes out of the expected - acceptable balance.


Trauma affects the “thinking” part of the brain causing actions that are spontaneous reactions as opposed to actions that follow a clear processing  path.


This Phase of reacting to situations without careful thinking becomes frequent and regular such that there is soon a string of actions that are persistent , continuous and destructive to all concerned. Why ? The single mum's mind may be on a permanent alert mode.


It gets deeper, the single mum would re-activate the alert mode with every smell, sound or taste that reminds her of past trauma.


Now the part of the Brain that is responsible for thinking is closely situated to the one responsible for memory. So a random smell re-activates a past trauma experience that causes the single mum to press the buttons of spontaneous reactions .Imagine this on repeat mode perpetually.


It is not unusual to observe the following set-patterns that may be consistent with the single mum’s actions.


  1. Trust Issues in People and systems.

  2. Unusual Fear.

  3. Low Self Esteem.

  4. Inability to maintain relationships

  5. Low level of faith or Believe as a Christian.(There is the general acknowledgement that there is a God who somehow have forgotten their struggles).


Studies have shown that Trauma at this stage makes cortisol and adrenaline hormones readily available to such a state that the immune system is weakened, inflammation shoots up and blood pressure begins to escalate. Sleep interference starts to rear its ugly head, lack of appetite becomes prevalent leading to lack of energy and motivation.


Other studies report damaged DNA ,altered gene expression and hormonal dis- balance all leading to Blood Pressure issues , Heart related issues , Mental health Disorder etc. .


A recent study Identified single mum as  one of the most economically disadvantaged group that face health risk worse than other women that are in their age- bracket.


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